Modern rhythm of life and the peculiarities of human behavior have become very different from what people are used to seeing for a long time. On the territory of the post-Soviet space, this difference is felt especially sharply. It is rare to find gallantry on the part of a man these days. Has this quality gone out of fashion or is it still relevant?
Why be gallant?
First of all, it is worth saying what this concept means. Gallantry originates from the Middle Ages, when it came to the knightly code of honor. This word, which has come down to us, in French means "refined politeness." Is it so often possible to meet the manifestation of this quality?
Although gallantry often indicates a good upbringing, some men in modern society enjoy this treatment of the opposite sex not from the principles of honor. For many members of the stronger sex, to act gallantly is to do something with the aim of impressing, to seduce a woman.
However, there are those who understand that to behave gallantly in the society of the fairer sex is a sign of dignity, good manners and nothing more. Unfortunately, the rarer this quality is,manifested with the right message, the more often it is interpreted as flirting and inappropriate attention. What does gallantry look like?
What is this quality expressed in
In a society where a woman sometimes strives to become more independent, a gallant man is not always the one she expects to see. This wonderful quality, which disappears over time from the life of society, is characterized by simple actions. For example, when a woman comes down the stairs, she should give her hand. Gallantry is also manifested in the fact that a man helps his companion put on a coat, skips ahead, opening the door for her, and pulls up a chair when she is about to sit down.
Such simple actions, which were the norm for an educated society, today can be interpreted not as politeness, but as signs of attention to a person of the opposite sex. That is why this behavior is typical of young people who care for a girl. This means that the manifestation of gallantry in relation to married ladies cannot always be correctly regarded by the surrounding people.
Being gallant is not just about being polite. Sometimes this quality manifests itself in relation to a woman even before there is a need for any action. For example, when meeting a gallant man, he should show his respect by saying the phrase “Nice to meet you” or “Nice to meet you.”
Also, a manifestation of gallantry is the ability to properly conduct a conversation. In the company of a gentleman, a woman may feel uncomfortable, so you should avoid those whocompletely unknown to her. Difficulties may arise with this, because most of the "male" conversations are uninteresting to the fairer sex. However, while acting casual, a man remains gallant if he starts a conversation that is familiar to his companion.
In the family
Although gallantry is a quality that is often used by a man to achieve certain goals, such as impressing a woman or gaining her trust, it should be used not only in certain situations, to solve tasks. Family psychologists unanimously argue that good manners testify to the true respect of the spouse for his chosen one. People who have been married for a long time no longer need to impress each other with anything, much less win. But the display of gallantry will make the relationship of the spouses stronger.
The reason that gallantry has become less common is not only the bad manners of men, but also the desire of women to become more independent. Many representatives of the weaker sex regarded signs of appropriate attention from gentlemen as evidence of indulgence shown to weak and helpless individuals.
Influence of gallant attitude
The manifestation of noble qualities has a positive effect on people. If a man acts gallantly, this gives him the opportunity to feel like a real protector, a strong personality. The manifestation of this quality in relation to her makes a woman even more feminine and attractive. GallantA man is the one every woman wants to meet. But even if this quality is shown by a friend or a complete stranger, such an attitude still reminds the lady of her uniqueness and warms the soul.
Whatever the mindset of modern man, some men will still continue to show gallantry. Such an attitude towards a woman is inherent in the representatives of the stronger sex in the genes. Nothing will force out of the subconscious of a man the idea that he is a strong personality and will always take a hit.
