We are arranged in such a way that we like it or not, but we express them on the case and not. It is very difficult for people to come to terms with injustice. One problem: justice is something that is always elusive and deeply subjective. And we are talking today, if someone does not understand, about reproaches. What is this noun and what are its synonyms, we will consider without delay.
Meaning
How much hands-on experience does each person have in making claims? Probably a lot, but even if this experience is tripled, it will still not help to formulate theoretically what a reproach is. But we don’t need to strain so much, because we have an explanatory dictionary. He will do this difficult work for us. In a wonderful book, the following meaning of the word “reproach” is written: “Expression of displeasure, disapproval, accusation.”
As you can see, the dictionary left the question of the fairness of claims to people, and rightly so. His job is to fix the most general definition of the word, and let consumers and addresseesdeal with their own difficult relationships. The main thing here is to understand what reproaches are, and the question of their quality is a separate issue.
Synonyms
Usually people are interested in the meaning of this or that word, and then they are curious about semantic analogues, that is, words with the same deep content. Our current case is no exception. We have compiled a list of possible synonyms for the word "reproach":
- note;
- accusation;
- attacks;
- nitpicking.
As you can see, if you do not include cognate words in the list, the list will not be rich. And it is striking that all the synonyms often indicate the injustice of the reproach, and this is not our opinion, but an analysis of those linguistic units that can replace the object of study. Only a remark can be both fair and not. And for the rest of the words, it’s time to call a lawyer, because they all bear the seal of a negative meaning. It's good that words are not people, and they don't need to justify themselves.
Fair and unfair reproaches in education
Semantic substitutions, of course, help to understand what reproaches are, but one more question needs to be clarified: how productive are they as an educational tool? Of course, parents often almost reflexively scold their children and express their displeasure directly, without bluntness. Such treatment hurts the child, but education, in principle, is a method of violence against nature. To educate meanslimit. But the barriers, the categories of good and evil, can look like an iron cage from the side of a child, or they can look like an iron armchair upholstered in fabric, in which at least it is pleasant to sit.
All this is directly related to the subject of our conversation. Because the child comprehends the world through those prohibitions and permissions that are given to him from above by his parents. So, if you really need to reproach the child with something, then you need to do it, on the one hand, gently, and on the other, clearly explaining why he is doing wrong. And yes, by the way, any punishment should also not be directive - “without talking”, but understood and accepted. Although insults in this case still can not be avoided. But this way of talking will not leave a child with a residue of the injustice of what is happening.
After we have sorted out the question of what reproaches are, it must be said: this is not the best form of communication with people. If you make a remark or throw an accusation at someone, then it must be reasoned so that, on the one hand, the attacker does not look stupid, and on the other hand, the defender understands that he is being charged. But as long as people have not overcome their emotional nature, unfair reproaches will exist, no matter what point of view.
