The adjective "constructive" has got into the zone of special attention today - this is the term we will talk about.
Politicians' favorite word… Probably, it captivates them with its streamlinedness, because careful wording is what diplomacy is famous for.
Meaning
According to the explanatory dictionary, the object of study has two meanings:
- Related to construction, needed for construction (special term).
- One that can be used as the basis for something, fruitful (belongs to book vocabulary).
Of course, there will be no talk of a special term here, because few people use the word in this sense. Most are interested primarily in the second meaning of our "hero". Here and there you can hear that one phenomenon is constructive, and the other is destructive. One creates and the other destroys.
Synonyms
We must turn to semantic substitutions to understand the meaning of the adjective "constructive", this will help to better understand the content of the word. Listnext:
- reasonable;
- useful;
- intelligent;
- business;
- productive;
- fruitful.
It doesn't matter what is paired with the adjective, it's always a winning neighborhood. When this or that phenomenon is recognized as constructive, this is a good sign. For example, constructive criticism or dialogue. Precisely because the object of study can be replaced by one of the synonyms mentioned above.
When the parties can agree
Let's imagine that there is a certain problem. For example, a child does not want to wash the dishes. Then the father says to him: "Well, I understand that this is a boring occupation, so I am ready to pay you for this work, let's say 50 rubles a day." The child agrees. When one side was able to convince the other of what is needed. We have before us an example of a constructive dialogue, this is obvious.
Of course, at the government level, the subject matter is much more serious, but the general principle is the same. A productive dialogue should be recognized as one that restructures the entire interaction of the parties. Let's return to the example with dishes and a child. Previously, he did housework reluctantly, under pressure, now he is interested in having the dishes washed, so he shows more zeal than usual. Perhaps, over time, this promises more serious changes, for example, the realization that any work must be paid, or that there is no shameful, non-prestigious work in the world.
Basic principles of constructive dialogue
When people are not as close as father and son, then we should take into account the provisions for constructing a conversation that we will offer:
- Collecting information.
- A good conversationalist is more of a listener than a speaker.
- Questions are the key to live, meaningful communication.
- The theme is everything.
- Avoid denial.
Don't think that we want to teach the reader diplomatic games. Our goal is ordinary communication, which gives more than takes away. In any situation, knowing how to build a dialogue with a stranger can come in handy. It is desirable that the conversation be constructive, although this is not required. Naturally, the first point can not always be applied. If a person got to a party, then what kind of information gathering is there. At such events, communication is like a stormy river, the main thing is not to drown in it. In this case, the ability to listen will come in handy, that is, point number 2. But you also need to know when to stop in this matter. No one is interested in dragging the whole conversation on themselves, so show interest, comment on the words of the interlocutor. Do not forget that your goal is a constructive dialogue.
If you really need to talk to the interlocutor, then go to the third point - ask questions. The latter should be as specific and personal as possible given the scarcity of information. Each person has a hobby, studies (in the past or present), certain preferences, tastes. In other words, man is the whole world. The main thing is to discover its exclusivity, to come across somethingwhat he is interested in.
The common theme is the basis of that conversation, which is called constructive, it is an axiom. In the absence of a common topic, the conversation turns into torment, and boredom quickly covers people, so the main task is to find this common ground. If it is found, then perhaps the relationship will become closer, and the person will find a friend. Everyone needs friends.
Another principle on which interaction with another person depends is the avoidance of the word "no" and its analogues. Understand, no one wants to talk to a negativist who denies everything and everything. Much depends on what is being discussed. If the dialogue does not oblige you to anything, then you can agree with almost anything, as long as it does not contradict your moral principles. Another thing is a dialogue in which much is at stake. Here you can agree in particulars, but not concede in the main.
We have already understood that the adjective "constructive" is something that has a whole story behind it. That's what we tried to tell.
