Each of us at least once in our lives faced rudeness. No one is immune from this: they can be rude to you in the line for bread, in crowded public transport or from a car that cuts you off. We are indignant: "Wow, what a boor!" And what do people usually put into this word? What is its true meaning?
Ham (or rudeness) is a ubiquitous phenomenon. Very often you come across this when you come to solve any issue in a state institution. One gets the impression that every second official is a boor, and that this is one of the main requirements when applying for a job in the state apparatus. Most decent people are at a loss before the onslaught of such a person, sometimes not knowing how to respond to the inadequate person standing in front of them, so as not to lose their own face. Let's try to deal with this social phenomenon in order to be ready to fight back.
Who is thisboo?
First, let's find out the origin of the word "ham". What does it mean, where did it come from? Let's open Dahl's dictionary. It says here that boor is an abusive nickname for serfs, servants, lackeys, serfs. Indeed, before the nobility considered themselves much higher than ordinary people. In fact, many nobles looked at serfs like cattle. Although, if you look at the conscience, then often it was the other way around. Many nobles behaved like real boors, and the peasants were a model of morality. Although there were exceptions.
Now we open Ozhegov's dictionary and read: a boor is a person distinguished by rudeness and ignorance. This definition is closer to the modern understanding of the term. Although the meaning of the word "ham" according to Dahl cannot be called obsolete. It just changed the meaning a bit. Now our society is split into two parts: the small one is the oligarchs who position themselves as an elite; and the big one is the common people. In fact, nothing has changed: "money bags", and especially their offspring ("golden youth"), who themselves have not achieved anything in life and live on everything ready, just like many years ago, believe that the usual a person is a boor, a redneck, and so on. However, the ratio of the rich to the poor is a topic for another article, so we will not focus on this. Well, the etymology of the word "ham" is clear, now let's move on to considering the concept in the well-known sense.
And for this, let's figure out how else you can call a person distinguished by such behavior, otherswords, let's try to find a synonym for the word "ham". Knowing the encyclopedic definition of this concept, this is not difficult to do. So, a boor is a rude, impudent, insolent, dork, ignorant, boorish.
Computer troll
Computer boor is a kind of insolent and rude person. What distinguishes him from the "classic" boor is cowardice. A computer troll hides behind a monitor; it is many kilometers away from its victim and therefore feels completely safe. As a result, such an individual fully opens up and pours whole tubs of slop on his opponent. Often the troll is not even aware of the topic being discussed on the forum, he will never read the author's article, but the first one will write a comment full of poison and dirt. This is his finest hour, he gets indescribable pleasure.
Introduction to boorishness
Agree, it's quite difficult to communicate with such people. How to resist their pressure, how to protect yourself from the anger of such a person and at the same time remain in a good mood? In the modern world, there are a huge variety of boors. There are even such experts as “hamoveds” who are trying to create their own classifications. Despite the differences between the rude people, there are some common signs in their behavior by which it is possible to determine who is standing in front of us. What are they?
Typical signs of boorishness
A lot can be said about a person by his speech. So, boorishness first of all gives out an abundance of boastful statements. He constantly challenges the people around him!In the speech of a boor, there is always impudence, even arrogance. He speaks contemptuously of his "rivals". Often in conversation, he uses abusive and indecent expressions, familiarity, flat jokes, appeal to "you". Also, boors are characterized by the denial of any social norms, they consider themselves superior, despise any rules other than their own. And at the same time, such a person defiantly rants about the human rights that the “rival” allegedly violated, about dignity and honor. And this despite the fact that these concepts are absolutely alien to him. Ham is always selfish, therefore he is able to protect only his "honor". These people are characterized by demonstrative behavior, they are always important and demonstrate this with all their appearance. Hearing about the appearance of a new “rival”, they are always excited, show impatience and are eager to fight. Their behavior strongly resembles the habits of a cocky rooster.
What is it for?
Normally, this may seem wild to a person, but with the help of rudeness, individuals satisfy some of their urgent needs. If you accidentally step on your foot or push another passenger in public transport, then most often the victim reacts adequately - accepts an apology or does not pay attention to it at all. This means that there are still many normal people. But if you come across a boor, then one such person can spoil the mood of all passengers. Why is he doing this? If we analyze such scandalous cases, as well as their results, it becomes obvious that there is no question of any protection of interests. True boorit does it out of love for the process. In doing so, he achieves several goals. Let's take a closer look at them.
Boorish benefits
1. First of all, it is the need for communication. Ham is often a very limited person with no intellectual interests. However, he needs communication, even at the primitive level of "trolleybus disassembly". The main thing is that spiritual emptiness is filled for a while. Every person needs emotional contact. It is difficult for Ham to attract the attention of an interlocutor with an intellectual conversation, so he uses the weapons that are available to him - shouting, swearing, insults, and so on.
2. Need for recognition. In a normal everyday situation, it is difficult for a boor to achieve approval due to a limited intellectual resource. But in the scandal, he bathes in the attention of others, even illusory. In a conflict, they talk to him, look at him, which means they recognize him. In such a situation, the boor feels that he is not “an empty place.”
3. Demonstrative own superiority. In reality, a boor has very low self-esteem. Deep down, he is always dissatisfied with himself. He achieved little in his life. The abundance of complexes and low self-esteem interfere with adequate communication with people. And if an inferiority complex is combined with ignorance, then there is no other way than rudeness. For such an individual, it is important to demonstrate that he is stronger, better than others, even in a quarrel. And if such a person occupies a high position, this does not mean that his self-esteem is high. Most likely, he is aware of his limitations, insolvency and does notsees no prospects. Therefore, in order to show his own superiority, the boor tries to humiliate the “rival”. This is the main goal.
This can and should be fought
Let's figure out how to answer a boor and not lose your face. There are several options for responding to the attacks of such individuals.
1. The simplest solution is to use the “eye for an eye” principle, that is, to overrule the boor. This method can be resorted to only if you are confident and ready to enter into a verbal skirmish. In this case, you deprive the boor of a sense of his own superiority, stun him with his own weapon. However, this is far from the best way, because you yourself become like him, and this does not paint you. You should also not forget that in front of you is a flawed person, he has already been punished, and he has to live with it. In addition, you need to understand that such a development of events can develop into assault.
2. The next scenario is ignoring his attacks and hard-hitting statements. However, this method will only be valid if you do it sincerely. If you can look a boor in the eyes and see an empty space or a wall, if you do not change your face, then this will be an absolute weapon. In this case, he will choke on his own bile, and you will remain the winner.
3. The path to avoid conflict. Do not give in to emotions, treat the boor as a huckster or a preacher. Show that you are not interested. Having not met the expected reaction, the person programmed for the conflict immediately switches, andbewilderment will remain in his soul, because the usual program did not work.
4. This path is usually followed by those who turn enemies into friends. To do this, you need to realize how unhappy the person who seeks to hurt you. It is necessary to treat the boor with sincere love. Very difficult, but possible.
Roads on the roads
In modern Russia, a new kind of rudeness has appeared - an impudent driver. Taking advantage of impunity on the part of law enforcement agencies, some we althy and powerful motorists imagined themselves to be almost kings. They do not follow the rules of the road, do not let pedestrians pass, drive through a red light, “cut off” other drivers, and park on the sidewalks. Today, such behavior is becoming widespread, but any action causes a reaction. And now a public organization has appeared in Russia that calls itself "Stopham".
These people, having met a driver who cynically violates traffic rules, stick a sticker with the inscription "Stopham" on the windshield of his car. At the same time, they shoot the "star" on video, so that everyone can admire it on YouTube. After all, the country should know its "heroes" by sight.
Conclusion
This article cannot be considered complete without mentioning one more fact - biblical. The widely advertised Christian righteous Noah (the one who escaped during the Flood) once, not calculating his strength, fell asleep in his tent.
And now, to his misfortune, Noah's son Ham looked into the tent for some reason and saw his father - we quote - "drunk and naked." No, to keep silent, so he went and told his brothers about what he saw, and they, like faithful sons, told their father about it in the morning. As a result, the righteous Noah cursed Ham. Here is such a strange act, but it is not for us to judge him. After all, Noah is a righteous man, and who are we?..
