Many believe that the feeling of pity is an unacceptable thing, no one wants to be pitied. But pity can still be healing. You just need to know how to regret. Pay attention, it was not in vain that in ancient times they said: "He pities her - he loves her." If you pity yourself properly, you will benefit from it.
Meaning of the word
The word "pity" can be used in two ways. Firstly, it may be a feeling experienced by the bygone years and youth. Secondly, it can be called compassion for a sick, weak, old person.
There is also such a thing as "self-pity", which is perceived as a negative feeling that interferes with a person's self-development. Pity is sometimes interpreted as a condescending attitude towards the weaknesses of another person. For example, one may feel sorry for a neighbor: after all, he is a kind person, but a bitter drunkard. It also happens that a not very smart young lady feels sorry for a young man in love with her, and she marries him. Needless to say, what an unhappy future awaits this couple?
Play on words
To be sorry isrespond emotionally to the helplessness of the other. But there are significant differences here. It is important to understand whether a living being needs your pity? This feeling is also evoked by a homeless puppy that follows you on the street. He needs a warm home and your love and care. The cripple also evokes pity, but maybe he does not want this? After all, he diligently adapts to the peculiarities of his condition, makes plans for the future and does not want to constantly remember about the disease. Pity causes a boy who fell off a bicycle and cries bitterly, I want to hug, regret, reassure.
This is a manifestation of compassion and understanding, which, nevertheless, can play a cruel joke on someone you feel sorry for. For example, you will take a homeless puppy home, but you will not love him, feed him well and take care of him. A fleeting feeling of pity will have a bad effect on the pet's life. It is better to give it to "good hands", in the house where they are waiting for it and will accept it with joy. And the manifestation of constant pity for a disabled person can lead to the fact that he will not adapt to new living conditions for him, will not look for work, will not strive to get an education. You can also take the bike from the boy so that he does not fall down and cry anymore, but is that right?
Fine line
Pity is a positive quality, but on the other hand, you need to be careful with it. After all, one needs to be pitied only once, and he will be able to get back on his feet again. If you pity another, he will drop his hands and stop fighting.
We must fall. But you also needget up. It is no coincidence that such a thin line between the concepts of "pity", "pathetic", "pity" and "sting". Regret is a recognition that a person is in trouble, this is a kind of internal point, a moment, but in the next moment it is worth considering how to help yourself.
