What is joy? Probably, this question worries people because we, for the most part, have forgotten when we were truly happy for the last time. Or we remember, but our emotion at that moment was fleeting, it was a long time ago. Today this feeling has been swallowed up by routine. And periodic attempts to be happy do not bring a feeling of deep satisfaction.
What is joy?
We eat a piece of cake and we want to eat more. Having eaten, we often feel heaviness and disappointment in ourselves, that again we could not resist, broke down, ate too much. In search of bright emotions, we start casual relationships, but this often just devastates us, does not bring us anything new, good. And we are looking for new relationships. And so in everything. We need to stimulate ourselves again and again, because we think that joy is a momentary pleasure. But is it?
What does science say?
Turning to Ushakov's explanatory dictionary, we can learn that joy is a feeling of pleasure, satisfaction, cheerful mood.
Synonymous with the word joy - "delight". We rejoice when we receive something. Whenwe have something. A synonym for the word joy is also "satisfaction".
Is this feeling fleeting or does the person experience it for a long time? One can argue: is joy a feeling or an emotion? That is, whether we rejoice in relation to the situation as a whole or feel it in relation to a particular person, object. Some call joy a "feeling." Others say it's an "emotion". In fact, it is not so important.
The important thing is that a joyful person can move mountains. He has everything on his shoulder. When we experience joy, we both work easier and live more pleasantly, and even with others we can share a good mood.
Joy as an invention of marketers
We live in a world of excess production and consumption. Every day, from computer and TV screens, advertising posters, we are offered hundreds of reasons to rejoice. Women will certainly be delighted with another new lipstick or visiting a luxurious spa, while men will be pleased with modern spinning or tickets for a football match with their favorite team. And, of course, everyone, both children and adults, will enjoy an exquisite chocolate cake from a trusted manufacturer! Oh yes! We absolutely must take super effective multivitamins and drink yogurt in the morning to normalize digestion. And joy will come!
We spend money in order to experience vivid emotions. And unfortunately, we often find ourselves with an empty wallet. And devastated internally.
The truth is, if we don't experience joyfrom our everyday life, we will be joyless and our tortured holidays, weekends - we will suffer from a hangover, from indigestion, torment ourselves with thoughts about wasted money … So it turns out that joy is a passing emotion? Is it fleeting?
Joy in another person
Just like the inventions of ubiquitous marketers, we absorb what various television series, shows, books impose on us. For example, many people think that we can experience joy, happiness, love only when everything is in order in our personal life, when there is someone who makes us happy. In fact, yes, personal life, communication with loved ones is great. But primary, nevertheless, is the joy that comes from ourselves, which we ourselves can share with other people. If we live only at the expense of those emotions that another person gives us, this is already an addiction, and not a relationship at all, not love and not joy.
But who is such a cheerful person? Someone who knows how to find joy in the most ordinary everyday things, in the little things. One who sets important goals for himself and persistently achieves them. The one who knows how not only to take, but also to give something in return.
Revealing the meaning of the word joy, religion tells us that a person finds true joy by being closer to God, visiting the temple, doing big and small good deeds. Relationship with God is a personal matter for everyone, but it is true that selfish actions in the end do not make a person happy and joyful, they bring only short-term satisfaction. BUTeven the smallest good deeds inspire us to continue to do good deeds in the future. We rejoice ourselves and sometimes receive a reward in the form of gratitude from other people, new acquaintances, reciprocal kindness.
Joy is the achievement of goals
As already mentioned above, joy is a fleeting emotion in the event that a person does not receive satisfaction from life in general. It just so happened that at the beginning of his life a person is a blank sheet on which everyone writes and is not too lazy. To a greater extent - parents, school, close friends. Environment. Sometimes our priorities are forced upon us by society. We supposedly have to study "excellent" or excel in sports, or get married before twenty-five … Must. What do we really want? What will make us happy? Yes exactly. After all, life is joy in itself. And if we are not happy, then something is wrong with our attitudes. So that's not what we're aiming for. Or maybe we are not striving for anything at all.
Maybe it's time to set yourself a goal, small but ambitious? To light up your eyes. Draw up a strategy for achieving and … live, but rejoice.
Joy is in the little things
Having set a goal for yourself and achieving it, do not forget to switch from time to time, to have a good and interesting rest. Get new impressions. Exercise. Yoga, swimming, running, skating are always pleasing… Get creative.
Plan joyous events, write down all your plansand strategies in your diary and strictly adhere to them. Don't neglect the little things.
You can enjoy what surrounds you: good weather or bad weather (after all, you can wrap yourself in a blanket, drink a cup of delicious hot chocolate or mulled wine, watch your favorite movie), loved ones: your children, friends, those who are close to you and those far away.
Attend various interesting events, meet new people.
Thank you. Every day you can find five minutes just to thank life for what it gives you, over a cup of tea. Say something nice to your loved ones.
Small things are important, but, of course, without a systematic movement forward in life, the implementation of your plans, the joy will be incomplete. It is necessary not only to receive, but also to give. Then your life will be bright, full and joyful.